I am overwhelmed with emotion and at a loss for words at the outpouring of support that people in our community have shown our family by donating prizes for the raffle, buying tickets, cross posting to spread the word, and the kind words that have gotten us through a very difficult time. We are proud to say that our personal need has been met and good (us, the sinners) triumphs over evil (them, the morally superior). To feed off of Graydancer’s post, we have proven that “a community proving that a community of pervs cares more about her education than an administration full of assholes.”

This means that instead of being my personal mission to fight for my daughter, I am on a bigger mission for the greater cause. I recognize that I am not the only person going through this battle. In fact, it’s a series of small battles that are all a part of a greater war on personal freedom, often with children in the crossfire.

This shouldn’t happen, but if you’re living an alternative lifestyle, it very well could happen to you. The only way to combat it is to put on the armor, link up arm-in-arm, and take them on as a commUNITY. That is exactly what I’ve seen in the last few days and I think we can do more!

The raffle continues, as it is scheduled to end on Sunday (8/17/08) at 10pm, but from this point forward, all proceeds will be going to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom as a contribution from the community that has stood together and won this battle. This is our way of supporting the war that has been waged in the land of the free against personal and sexual freedom. At the end of the year, the refunded monies will also be donated on behalf of this community.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.

My deepest gratitude to those who have supported and continue to support this cause. I have never felt such a sense of community in my entire life. So here is the current prize list for the new official National Coalition for Sexual Freedom raffle. Check back, as we seem to be adding prizes daily.

From Lochai there are three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.

Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print. (Sold normally at $75/print)

Ellie Lumpesse has donated three books:

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

Ellie is also offering:

a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.

Sam donated:

custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up. “It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said. Pretty indeed! Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html

Thursday and D donated:

a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs
a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women.

And Thursday has also offered:

one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner. Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.

The writer of Between My Sheets offered:

A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.

And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:

Her services as a graphic designer. There are two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr). In addition to participating in this raffle, she is doing her own auction to raise money. She is sponsoring a silent auction of one of her paintings on her web page.

Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:

A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.

Essin’ Em:

just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you. As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!

Sabrina Fox - does the name ring a bell?

Sabrina Fox, as in the redhead hot as fuck bondage and fetish model, Sabrina Fox, was chatting with me today and mentioned that she has a few pairs of latex panties that she recently wore for a photoshoot that would offer as prizes. Latex panties worn by Sabrina Fox, anyone? Oh wait until I tell W about this when she is older.

Jeff Mach commented: (THANK YOU, JEFF!) [This is one of those prizes that I would like to know if you would like to be entered to win. If you're not in the area and can't use the tickets, then they would do you no good, but if you are in that area, then it's a great prize!]

I am running a New Year’s Eve fetish event in New Jersey at the end of this year (on NYE itself). I’ll offer a ticket (that is, admission for two people, including gourmet meal and champagne)

and

I run the Wicked Winter Renaissance Faire, now entering its fourth year, every February - again, in Jersey. We’re going to three days this year, and tickets for all three days would usually be at $40; I can donate two pairs of those, as well.

I feel like George from “It’s a Wonderful Life”. Graydancer, who posted a very insightful post about the society that we live in, just twittered me (it sounds dirtier than it is) and said:

I didn’t realize you were adding prizes. Throw in an audiobook version of my novel, “Nawashi“.

Rose Fox offered a very generous and naughty prize — a very good combination for this crowd!:

I used to review DVDs for AVN, and I’m still on Vivid’s mailing list, so now I have a closet full of unopened Vivid porn DVDs. I’ve been trying to figure out how to donate them someplace and would be delighted to offer them for your cause.

There are too many to catalog, so perhaps 10 “grab bags” of ten DVD’s? I’d do my best to include a varied selection so that the winner is fairly likely to get at least a few titles that suit their tastes.

(Just a note on this: because of the laws regarding the selling of pornography, the winners would need to submit a copy of their ID to Rose in order for her to be able to send them to you.)

Beautiful Rebecca has offered:

an original piece of sensual art from the artist. It was scheduled for a gallery show next year but we would much rather have it go to your cause as it hit home. It is 3×4 metal with an object representing a uterus called, “Oikos Cella”.

Alternatively, for those who win, but don’t feel that this art is right for their home, she is an interior designer and has offered to do a consultation for a room re-do. The details are kind of extensive, so I’ll discuss it with the winner personally.

Ms. Nikki Nefarious and AlteredAperture.com) has donated prints and a rope kit:

Collette for TABU Magazine 8 x 12
Jamie in Latex 8 x 12
Girl’s Best Friend 8 x 12
Scream 8 x 10
GarGirl Bound 8 x 10
The Enforcer 8 x 10
Sarah Sealed 8 x 10
Red Hood 8 x 10

and then A Starter Rope Package (4-pack of multi-colored ropes in different lengths and hemp rope cuffs)

Lily, who calls herself Lily (the rope ho) in her comment has donated

3 x 30ft hand-dyed, processed 6mm hemp kit

Radical Vixen, who most of you know as the editor of the weekly sex blog digest, Sugasm, is a very active political advocate. She has offered two books for the raffle:

She’s on Top: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and Male Submission
Sex and Bacon: Why I Love Things That Are Very, Very Bad For Me

Thank you, so much! I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community. Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.

I’m officially re-launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle” as the “The Battle Is Won, But the War is Not Over” raffle with all remaining proceeds from this point forward going to NCSF.

Here is the link to buy your virtual ticket.

Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times). You are not obligated to buy a virtual ticket. You can also just donate to a very worthy cause at any amount.

I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners. At this point, she is well-aware of what is going on. We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm. You will be notified by 10:30 pm by email. Heck, we’ll even try to find someone to film it and show it to you all :)

Buy A Raffle Ticket To Win A Limited, Edition, Museum Signed Print From Lochai

I’ve never discussed this on my blog before, but recent developments have prompted me to discuss the reason why I’m no longer a teacher. Being Catalina isn’t always a good thing. I separated early this year with my school as a peaceful way to avoid a public scandal that would ultimately affect my teenage daughter, who attended said school.

Part of my agreement I cannot legally discuss - specifically the reasons and terms of my separation - but use your imaginations. I can say that I agreed to leave quietly and peacefully under the condition that my (straight-a’s, honors courses, award-winning, athlete, without a discipline record) child be allowed to attend her last year of middle school just as if I had resigned at the end of the year. Let me spell this out for you. Faculty receive a substantial tuition discount. I pay 10% of the tuition. This roughly amounts to $1,100. After leaving, all faculty are offered one more year for their children at the faculty tuition discount as a way to avoid disrupting their children’s lives too much.

A few days ago the head of my former school called me to tell me that had rescinded his offer and that she was no longer welcome to attend. In the same phone conversation, he changed his mind and decided to honor our agreement. Well, kind of. I came in with the tuition and they refused to accept my payment.

Later I received an email that stated that on top of the faculty tuition, I am also expected to pay student fees, which are not covered under the faculty discount. Okay, so throw in another $900. I can come up with that, even if it means the car payment doesn’t get paid.

The straw that broke this camel’s back? The additional $1,000 expense account that is being demanded by the 18th of August to cover her lunch account (which was roughly $750 last year) and field trip expenses (which are roughly $250). I requested that she not be allowed to charge a lunch in the cafeteria and that she will bring her lunch, which is an option available to (other) parents, to have this fee waived. The field trip charges, I can’t really object to, that seems fair, so mental tab up to $2,200.

I’ve just been informed that the school is unwilling to waive the expense account fee for her lunch account and demands the entire amount be paid. If it is unused it will be refunded to me at the end of the year. Nice of them to at least offer that. This brings up my new grand total to $3,200 in 8 days.

I went from having her tuition paid to being a mile away.

I have never been as upset as I am right now. For a “Christian” educator to use a child as a pawn in a moral battle against me, and what I represent, is unethical - it’s beyond unethical - it’s reprehensible.

So I’ve played all of my cards, my hands are tied. He wins right now. Because I have been judged a whore, my child loses.

I refuse to allow that to happen. For the first time ever, I am asking my readers to help me. I’ve asked my readers to support the arts (artists, photographers, and other bloggers) but never asked for financial support on my blogs for myself or my family. Today that changes because my child is involved. Today I ask for your support for my daughter’s education and future.

Similar to the project I did for Lochai, I am asking for donations towards my daughter’s education fund. I spoke to Lochai this afternoon, and he has offered to donate three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.

Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print. (Sold normally at $75/print)

On top of Lochai’s unbelievably generous offer, several people have contacted me since posting this and asked to donate items to be raffled off as well. Now, from Ellie Lumpesse we have three books:

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

Ellie is also offering a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.

And one of Janice’s friends left a comment in my blog that she would donate custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up.

“It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said. Pretty indeed! Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html

Thursday and D have also offered a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs and a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women. And Thursday has also offered one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner. Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.

Then I got an email from a total stranger, the writer of Between My Sheets, who offered:

A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.

And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:

Her services as a graphic designer and artist. She is looking into which painting(s) she is going to donate, but she has committed to two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr).

Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:

A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.

Thank you, so much! I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community. Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.

Essin’ Em, the pansexual feminist sexpert on her way up, just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you. As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!

Sabrina Fox - does the name ring a bell?

Sabrina Fox, as in the redhead hot as fuck bondage and fetish model, Sabrina Fox, was chatting with me today and mentioned that she has a few pairs of latex panties that she recently wore for a photoshoot that would offer as prizes. Latex panties worn by Sabrina Fox, anyone? Oh wait until I tell W about this when she is older.

Jeff Mach commented: (THANK YOU, JEFF!)

Prize donations, a few: - I am running a New Year’s Eve fetish event in New Jersey at the end of this year (on NYE itself). Tickets are probably going to be something along the lines of $250 per couple - we were actually finalizing that this week. I’ll offer a ticket (that is, admission for two people, including gourmet meal and champagne) for the raffle, if you’d like.

and

I run the Wicked Winter Renaissance Faire, now entering its fourth year, every February - again, in Jersey. We’re going to three days this year, and tickets for all three days would usually be at $40; I can donate two pairs of those, as well, if it will assist you.

I feel like George from “It’s a Wonderful Life”. Graydancer, who posted a very insightful post about the society that we live in, just twittered me (it sounds dirtier than it is) and said:

I didn’t realize you were adding prizes. Throw in an audiobook version of my novel, “Nawashi“.

Thanks, Graydancer! I appreciate it! I didn’t know I was going to add prizes either, until people started offering. The outpouring of support in the various ways people have shown it is very moving. Some people can afford to show their support by purchasing a ticket, some people are supporting us by crossposting, some are offering prizes, some are doing all of the above and then some. I even consider it supportive just to see comments from people who happened upon it and have shown emotional support.

In the comments this morning, from a total stranger, Rose Fox, was this offer, which is generous and naughty — a very good combination for this crowd!:

I’m here via the person who donated the jewelry. I used to review DVDs for AVN, and I’m still on Vivid’s mailing list, so now I have a closet full of unopened Vivid porn DVDs. I’ve been trying to figure out how to donate them someplace and would be delighted to offer them for your cause.

There are too many to catalog, so perhaps 10 “grab bags” of ten DVD’s? I’d do my best to include a varied selection so that the winner is fairly likely to get at least a few titles that suit their tastes.

Thank you, Rose — I don’t know anybody, personally, who would turn down a handful of DVD’s. And you’re really giving away 10 prizes, not just one, so thank you x 10! You’re right, there’s got to be something in there that turns that key in the lock. (Just a note on this: because of the laws regarding the selling of pornography, the winners would need to submit a copy of their ID to Rose in order for her to be able to send them to you.)

Also in the comments this morning was a message from Beautiful Rebecca offering a piece of original sensual art:

I have an original piece of sensual art from the artist I live with I would like to donate. It was scheduled for a gallery show next year but we would much rather have it go to your cause as it hit home.

The List Keeps Growing!
Please read this post on CatalinaLoves.com
to see the most recent list. Good stuff! I’m overwhelmed by the contributions people are making to make this raffle a big success.

I’m officially launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle”, here is the link to buy your virtual ticket. Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times). I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners (of course I’ll come up with some vanilla reason why she’s doing it). We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm. You will be notified by 10:15 pm.

Image by Lochai (kirinawa.com) - Graphic Design by Naughty Secretary

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Viva la Vida by Coldplay

All the best things I could find for you in one week, and some things I have forgotten to include for a while now.  I’m a little late this weekend, because I spent a little too much time socializing.  However, in my own defense, against myself, I would say that I have worked 18 hour days 7 days a week for …  what seems like an eternity.  Okay, enough self-rationalization.  I’m late, but no rabbit had to die.  Here is this week’s Good Things List - hopefully it’s a better version than Martha’s.

A Good Blog To Read!

Fanny Lucette is a Ph.D. psychology professor, with M.A. degrees in related fields. She has been a counselor and educator for many years. She recently wrote a guest post for me on Catalina Loves (thank you thank you thank you!!) and she will be joining the new community blog that will launch soon at bestsexbloggers.com.  Her blog is not a sex blog per se, but as she describes it on her page, “All of us have questions about relationships, sexual thoughts or behaviors. My life experiences and professional credentials will help you sort through it all.”  So take a look and hit your RSS feeds because you’ll want to keep up with Ms. Lucette once you’ve started reading.

A Good (Strap On) Dildo

Strap on play.  Three little words, but they can invoke an entire mental scene, can’t they?  Strap-on sex.  Imagine the scene.  Is it a lesbian scene?  Do you see it as a Domme/sub scene?  Is it a loving couple experimenting with assplay together?  It really can be any and it can be all.  The fact is, I have used strapons with women, as a professional dominatrix, and also as a loving wife (even a submissive loving wife, at that).  I choose the Corsette Harness as my new favorite strap on harness because it’s soft, velvety, black, feminine, and (important for practical purposes) it adjusts easily so it’s easy to slip in and out of gracefully.

A Good Podcast

Graydancer’s “The Ropecast” is the new home of the premiere rope bondage podcast.  This podcast talks about kinky sex, consensual adult bondage, and discusses dominance, submission, sado-masochism, and the iniquieties of the square knot in a frank, open, and entertaining way.  (I didn’t write that, by the way, but it is all true and well-written, so why re-invent the wheel?  I copied and pasted from The Ropecast site).

A Good Book

It’s going to become very obvious to you soon, so I’ll just ‘fess up now - I am definitely kissing Graydancer’s ass this week.  Why?  Because I’ve admired him for so long and I practically begged him to be a part of bestsexbloggers.com.  I told him that I would, in fact, kiss his ass, if he would join.  He joined, so here is Graydancer’s book, Nawashi - A Novel of Erotic Magic.  Take a lookee and buy a coppee.

A Good Educational Opportunity

Did you know that you can take free courses online from MIT (yes, that’s the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, MIT).  Well, kind of.  Read carefully, but essentially they make their course materials available online and though you don’t get credit for it, you can learn for the sake of learning.  Now here’s the cool thing, to me, anyway.  I thought that MIT only offered courses in science and math.  I was wrong.  Here is the course description of the course I’m currently taking:

Este semestre la materia combina obras ya canonizadas de finales del siglo XIX y del XX con algunas obras de reciente aparición. De los géneros literarios, vemos poesía, el cuento corto, la novela y la autobiografía. También vemos una película de tema ficticio y dos documentales. El estudiante que se interese por hacerlo puede usar los materiales en la Reserva y en la red para familiarizarse con la historia literaria y cinematográfica de este período. Nuestro enfoque principal, sin embargo, será leer bien y de modo analítico, textos literarios de diferentes momentos históricos y culturas nacionales (e internacionales). Aunque discutiremos analíticamente las tres películas, su interés principal para nosotros será, en un caso, conocer el argumento ideológico de una novela muy famosa e influyente que, por falta de tiempo, no vamos a poder leer en sus totalidad, y en los dos otros casos, para contextualizar una autobiografía y tener un punto de comparación para estudiar cómo se puede reconstruir la memoria simultáneamente individual y colectiva. Otros temas, que se estudiarán en varias obras, serán el bilingüismo (español/inglés) en ciertos escritores hispanoamericanos contemporáneos, y el auge de la novela best seller en la América Hispana.

So, in case you can’t tell, that’s an advanced Spanish literature course.  Who knew I could brush up on my primary field of study with free online courses from MIT?!  I just found out recently, but I’m on it!  The Catalina Downer Disclaimer:  You might have to buy books and don’t forget that books are not free.  Ever.  So, though the courses are free, you can’t necessarily say that you can take any class you want for free.  Sorry.  But this is about as close as you can get!

A Good Corset (and lingerie)

Mio Destino is located in Europe, but delivers worldwide and has a domestic office.  Their corsets are undeniably quality.  You’re not buying an ebay corset, this is the one you’ve been saving up for.  They aren’t so horribly expensive that you can’t afford it unless you’re married to a very wealthy international finance attorney, however, they’re not cheap either.  The selection is unbelievable - corsets by designer, shape, by fabric, corsets to wear out, bridal corsets, underbust corsets, and corset skirts.  They are the way to go if you’re in the market for that special one.

A (PERFECT) Album

Viva la Vida by Coldplay is amazing.  Brian Eno produced it, so when I first heard it, I rejected it stating simply, “I’m not interested in listening to another U2 album.” What a bitch!  Now, I come back with my official opinion - “This is the best Coldplay album yet.” You must listen to it through headphones.  That’s my only caveat.  It sounds good over speakers, and it sounds great in the car, but there is something special about listening to it in the headphones, like being able to hear Chris quietly count off.  Also, I own the official album and then I also have the special Marky D. Sade found this two weeks before it was released version.  The difference is that I have two extra tracks - Lost (acoustic) and Lovers in Japan (acoustic).  The trick is that you have to listen to the album, looped, without the two extra tracks.  Let song 10 fade into song 1.  I won’t give it away here, but just do it.  It’s neato.  I think my favorite song right now is Strawberry Swing.  It’s a great way to start the day - Chris Martin telling you it’s such a perfect day.

"Catalina's Penthouse Bondage", Rigging and Photography by Ms. Nikki Nefarious

This week’s Good Things List is packed full of as many good things as I could find for you.  Some are free, some are not.  Everything on here I hand-picked myself and I recommend.  It’s not bullshit, it’s not clever advertising, it’s just that I’m an opinionated person and I think that people should know about the good things that I find.  That’s all.

A Good Blog To Read

Naughty Secretary writes a very hot blog.  She is a natural born writer, it just pours out of her and what she ends up with is eloquent and perfect every single time.  She caught my attention and now we are close.  I consider her my Naughty Secretary, as she has taken on the position willingly.  I’m not just sending you there because NS is fucking hot, nor am I sending you there just because she wrote this post about me, but it certainly didn’t hurt her case either!

A Good Dildo

I’m way into glass / pyrex dildos these days.  I talked before about the Cyberglass Felicity.  This time I’m recommending the Pleasure Bump.  They are a really nice quality for a really nice price.  I was going on and on about the Cyberglass Felicity with a friend of mine who said, ” I love that glass dildo.  Most glass products are so expensive, but this one is inexpensive, yet feels like some of the higher end glass dildos.” So there you have it, two kinky women agree these dildos are the way to go!

A Good Quickie

Mz Berlin is a friend of mine, as you know.  She’s sexy, she’s intelligent, she’s dorky, she’s funny, she loves Lolcats, and sensory deprivation with her Dom, The Mad Scientist.  She also has a little clips store that is well worth your time.  Of course you can see porn for free, duh.  I’m not stupid.  I know this.  You can also eat for free if you want to dumpster dive.  This is the equivalent of eating in the restaurant rather than digging through the scraps.  Take your pick and give a click.  It’s a mixture of content from her younger days and also current content that she creates herself.  And as she says, “I made it just for you.”

A Good Calling Card

I really need to have new calling cards made.  Badly.  So does everybody I know.  Lately it’s been the topic of conversation amongst my friends.  When Thursday’s Child suggested Moo Cards, I instantly knew I had to pass that site along in the Good Things List this week.  It is definitely where I am going to order my cards from (payday…  payday…)   Oh, by the way - I get nothing from them for saying this - I just think their site is very cool.

A Good Deed

Now you can do a good deed and get off at the same time!  It doesn’t really get better than that.  Seriously.  Take a look at “Adopt a Child” by Sinless Touch.  I’m not affiliated with them, but I saw a press release on AVN (Adult Video Network) recently and looked into it and it’s the real deal.  It says on their site:

During checkout, you have the option to round up your purchases and donate electronic “spare change” to a charitable cause.  One of the reasons that people don’t donate is because they don’t have enough time, so we have tired to make it easy for you.  During your checkout you decide how much to round up your total, and the donation is included in your payment.
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A Good Rigger

A rigger is a bondage artist.  S/he ties knots intricately for BDSM scenes using Nawa Shibari as well as other bondage art techniques.  Professional riggers are employed by companies like Kink.com and often are themselves players in the scene (take Claire Adams, for example).  Some are just there to tie up the willing victim.  Some are there to create bondage art for bondage art photography.  Ms. Nikki Nefarious was voted the #3 Rigger in the 2008 Bondage Awards.  That’s right, my Nikki, the genius behind Altered Aperture, the award winning rigger ties up Catalina all the time.  How fucking lucky am I?!?!  Nikki’s recent separation from Social Kink has made her more available for freelance work.  Now’s your chance!

A Good Way To Distract Yourself

I might be the last one alive to have signed up already for Twitter, my profile is CatalinaLoves, but I’m now officially addicted.  I even have the little Twitterfox plug in for Firefox and now I can play with all my blogger friends and fellow kinksters and perverts all day long while I’m supposed to be working!  If I could figure it out, I would add a little Twitter widget to Catalina Loves, but I haven’t figured it out yet.  I could also, apparently, get updates on my cell phone, but again, not quite that cool.  Funny, I can tell you how to write code, but I can’t get Twitter technology to work.

Well, that’s about it - anything more and I’ll just be looking for good things.  These are all good things that I’ve found, stumbled upon, or was pointed to.  I’d rather have a short list of good things that are really good than a big long list of crap I hunted for on Friday night at 9:33 pm (the current time here in Charlotte, NC).

Just a little shameless self-promotion — I’d like to think that my blogs are all good things, so just a little reminder to take a peek.  I also just started writing at Trufetish.com and I will contribute on the blog at Into The Attic as well.  Soon all of the best sex bloggers and erotic photographers will collaborate on a very big project I am managing - so keep an ear out for news about that!  And now, it’s time for my date with MDS.

This week’s Good Things List is brought to you by the letter V (for valium) and the number 10 (for the dose)… and readers like you!  (PS: JOIN FETLIFE!)

A Good Blog To Read

Narration by D is this week’s blog pick.  D is the counterpart of another of my favorite blogs Thursday’s Child.  It says in his profile: “From the male perspective, the exploration of a young married couple beyond vanilla sex.”   D is in my BILF list.  His wife is also in my BILF list.  They as a couple are in my BILF list.  Now we just have to figure out how to get into the same state and city!

A Good Toy

I have just gotten my new shipment of toys to review for Vibe Review and I haven’t even formally reviewed it yet on my blog, but so far I can tell you that I adore the Cyberglass Felicity.  I have just recently gotten into glass/pyrex dildos and this one is a perfect starter because of the low price.  You can warm it under some hot water in the sink or you can cool it in the refrigerator for a while (it comes in a nice case, by the way!).  You can use either end, you can play with it vaginally or anally.  I just love it!  Vibe Review happens to be a great company to do business with - a classy online toy company that has a good reputation.  That matters!

A Good Photographer

Erocrush.  Melvin Moten, Jr. is Erocrush.  His work is special to me.  He is special to me.  I consider him a very good friend.  He allows me to use his images all the time on my blogs.  I know that you have enjoyed them.  Like Lochai, who I’m in love with, Melvin isn’t shooting for the porn content market.  He shoots fetish and erotic art that he enjoys.  With real women, that he enjoys.  With real couples.  One thing I noticed about Melvin’s work is that his models obviously feel so natural with him that they forget he’s even there.  It’s as though you’re actually there, in the scene, a voyeur.  I love Melvin.  I want Melvin to shoot me.  With any luck at all, this fall, he will.  Then I will have my way with him!  If you click on the (perfect) image in this post (by Erocrush) it will magically take you to his site.  Fear not! It will open in a new window and you won’t lose the Good Things List!

A Good Pay Site

Inescapable Bondage is January Seraph’s new content site.  She has been shooting their own content like crazy.  She and her hotter than hell partner-in-crime, Smutty, have been violating all kinds of men and women.  This is Brand Spanking New!  January isn’t, of course.  She’s got a great reputation as a top model and actress already, but this site is so new that you’re probably the first one you know to see it! 

A Good Blogger Resource

The Week In Kink.  Duh.  I sat here and tried to think about this one for a while and then I realized, if you’re a good blogger and you have good posts, then you should send me a little note.  Each week I go through blogs that I like and pick the hottest posts and then publish them on TheWeekInKink.Com.  I just want to be clear that I’m not trying to compete with Sugasm.  It’s not a democracy - it’s just a list of my top favoritest, hottest, made me want to masturbate posts.  :)

A Good Group

It’s widely known that I love FetLife.  I’m an official greeter there now, which makes me feel extra special.  What makes me feel super, duper special, though, is starting a new Charlotte Kinksters group (it’s called Charlotte, NC - The Queen of Kink, since we are the Queen City!)  If you join FetLife you can join the Charlotte Kinky group.  The idea is that we could all get together for informal gatherings and have a little community here that isn’t quite as formal as CAPEX.

A Good Alternative Education Resource/CommUNITY Source

This is the place to go to find professional alternative educators, presenters, event planners, vendors, dm/security/medical, legal, volunteers, and more.  Everybody claims to be a sex educator, but this group is truly respected within the commUNITY as the leaders in their fields.  Now, you can learn from them.  Oh, it’s no coincidence you’ll find Lochai there.  Wouldn’t you die to take a bondage class with Lochai?  Oh my…  You can also take classes with people like Claire Adams.  OMG.  I’m in heaven. 

[This beautiful image is of Narration by D.  I can't even begin to express how much I want him.]

Catalina Loves:

• Catalina loves Lochai…ahhhh fantasies
  
• Catalina loves new toys from Vibe Review
  

Catalina Says:

• Monday’s Slut Journal
  
• FetLife Bloggers Anonymous Blogroll

The Momme Domme:

• Coming Soon To A Clip Store Near You
• Men In Pain Knows How CBT Should Be Done

Corset and Collar:

• Is It Thursday Yet?
• I want it! I want it! I want it! I want it! It’s At Exquisite Restraints Corsets

Breathplay Fetish Blog:

• A Hot Medical FemDom Scene With Mz. Berlin, Kayla Paige, And A Dirty Sponge Gag
  
• Liberator Sex Ramp/Wedge Combo: Sex Furniture Built To Last

Mr. and Mrs. Kink (dot com):

• Mr. Kink Uses Mrs. Kink The Way She Was Meant To Be Used
• Way Back Wednesday: You Don’t Get To Tell Me No
  

Marky D. Sade’s Sexy BDSM Blog:

• Fetish Model Mz. Berlin is Tied Up and Forced To Suck Cock and Fuck
• Sgt. Major puts Claire Adams in Full Suspension Bondage

Mz. Berlin’s Blog:

• My Netflix Queue Needs You!
• Zen and The Art of Pornographic Madness

Married Exploits:

• New Record

No Limits: His slave’s Total Submission:

• my rules
• a slave missing her Owner

Kinkerbelle:

• Monday Memories~
• Porn’d Pages?
  

Curvaceous Dee:

• View From The Bottom HNT

Lady Sascha, Cocktease Extraordinaire:

• Get a Load of These Gams

And please take a few minutes to check out the great posts at True Grime.

So there you have it. The Week In Kink with a few new friends on the

Originally Posted On Marky D. Sade.com.

The world of sex toys suffers from the stigma of naughtiness. One is usually forced to lower one’s expectations with regard to quality when buying sex products. The production values on a DVD of porn wouldn’t be expected to exceed that of a Sci Fi Original Movie. In general sex toys and furniture is overpriced, and sometimes… a bit dodgy.

Not so with Liberator. My wife, Catalina, and I recently picked up the Liberator Sex Wedge/Ramp Combo. The promise given by the website (very slick and professional, btw) was:

Liberator Wedge and Ramp nest together to form an angled pedestal upon which to make extraordinary love. Sessions last longer than ever, leading to orgasms of incredible intensity!

Imagine my delight when I discovered that to be true!  First of all, let me address the question of, “Why the hell do I need a sex wedge, much less a ramp. That sounds like riduculous hippy hocum.” Easy now, buddy. I know you’ve been burned before, often by hardon cream, and injected molded vaginas. But this is different. First of all, they’re amazingly well built. The material is light, but resilient. This isn’t the same dorm room foam furniture you get a Wally World. This stuff is made of quality material, inside and out. The reason I’m harping on the quality is that the Wedge/Ramp Combo cost about $300 bucks, when we got ours. The Black Label version is, anyway. Now they’re on sale for $255. It’s less than a PS3, and you’ll have way more fun. The Black Label comes in black, and has a blindfold, straps, cuffs, and attachments, all for bondage lovin’.  Again, everything is quality. The microfiber material is comfortable (no rug burn) and cleans easily. Also… there’s a practical side as well, in that the covers can be removed and machine washed. Nice.

On to the function. It is amazing. I fucked Catalina for at least a half hour, and I mean I fucked her. Doggy style, porno thrusts, and it was comfortable. When you order a set, Liberator asks for your measurements, down to the inseam, and now I see why. These things fit us as a couple. Catalina was nestle ergonomically in the ramp/wedge, and her ass was at perfect, I mean perfect, height and and angle for perfectly efficient, effortless fucking. There was a nice long buildup, and when she came, it was intense. There was never a moment when I looked at my watch (you’ve all been there), or felt my back start to get sore, or my legs… nothing. It was fantastic!

So listen. Seriously consider Liberator Sex Furniture. I would have never thought it was true, but it is. This stuff makes sex much much better. The best thing is, it’s worth the price. It is furniture for real, and it will last for years.

In My Dreams!!! Even January Seraph puts on her Martha Stewart look for this week’s Good Things List.

The Good Things List actually has a new (temporary FEMA home) at TheGoodThingsList.wordpress.com, but I thought I’d paste it here for those of you who feel like the extra click is just too… much… to…. bear…. :-)

A Good Blog To Read

Emerging On The Other Side is the blog written by an overeducated skank (former slut) who is proud of it.

A Good Toy

The Black Label Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo is the best! It seems like a just a pretty little strategically cut out piece of foam with a cover, but it’s sooooo much more! It’s great for people (like me) who have back problems and can’t tolerate a traditional hands and knees position for longer than three minutes. I never ever feel pain (except for the good kind!) when we get out our Liberator set.

A Good Great Photographer

Lochai is not only a good photographer, but he is a great artist! He is the photographer responsible for the image at the top of this post! I recently did an interview with Lochai on Catalina Loves. This bit is From his bio on his website Kirinawa.com:

Lochai is an award winning photographer who’s work appears on gallery walls as well in fine art publications & coffee table books. He “shoots for the walls & not the computer screen”. Presently he has his work on display at the Leather Archive & Museum in Chicago, for sale in brick & mortar galleries from Key West Florida to Cyber fine art galleries based out of London as well on many private collectors walls. His images, rope art & interviews have been published in The British Journal of Photography, Secret, Skin Two, Bizarre, Prometheus, Cherry, A Magazine, Fetish Anthology, Extreme Anthology, New Times and in his own fine art books. His work can also be found on numerous websites from around the world. He is one of the founding directors of PAG, the Photo Artisans Guild, in West Palm Beach Florida. He as also the co-founder & co-curator of the Traveling Erotic Art Show which spent 2 years touring the US.

He feels that the best stories to tell come from the heart and everyone has something hidden that is bursting to come out. “I feel I can touch something inside the heart & head of each person who views my work. For me, I see the real person when I create my images. The real person comes out thru their alter ego.” Starting in Mid June he will be teaching along side David Lawrence & Bobby Knight 3 day intensive workshops on the art of fine art fetish photography. For more information go to http://prophototours.com/

Being an educator & student of bdsm and fetish, Lochai knows how to bring out the look of hidden desires in his models & shows “real” emotions to his audience. He is considered an advanced rope artist who tours the country teaching rope bondage to kinksters from all walks of life & both rigs his own models for his photography as well as for some of the top photographers in the world. “The Art of The Art” is how he looks at his bondage images & he loves to share his knowledge.

On the Bondage side… Lochai has been a student of Japanese inspired rope bondage since a very early age. He has been educating the rope bondage minded in South Florida for the past 8 years as well as across the country for the past 12. He is one of the founding members of the Traveling Rope Troupe comprised of riggers and bottoms who perform theater style aspects of their bondage art as a lead into a series of hands on classes. He can be found on occasion binding beauties and creating living art at local fetish events as well as major exhibitions. “I use the body as a canvas & rope as the medium in creating my art”

A Good Band

I’m partial to this band because it’s my very good friend’s band. Your Dirty Habit is club/dance music and it never leaves my playlist. On their site at Myspace.com/YourDirtyHabit, you can grab the Live Summer 2007 Live Mix - DO IT! I love it!

A Good Pay Site

Backdoor Bondage is the site that belongs to Sgt. Major. His scenes are some of the hottest I’ve seen, ever. Maybe it’s because I’m such a fan of Claire Adams and I’ve seen two scenes with her it them - one where she was being punched in the ass and another where she’s completely suspended upside down being erotically choked. Either way, yum yum.

A Good Webmaster Resource

Kinky Dollars is Kink.com’s affiliate program. We have had great success monetizing our blogs with Kink.com. Click on the little link and you can sign up for your own account.

A Good Non-Sex Science Tattoo Blog

My friend, Zetar, passed this blog along to me and I just have to share it with everyone else. I normally don’t like tattoos, but these tattoos are right up my alley. Nerds meet Ink - Ink meet Nerds. It’s Carl Zimmer’s Science Tattoo Emporium. Frequently when graduate students finish their doctorate (or even Masters) they get a commemorative tattoo. No, not an “I love Betty” tattoo, but cooler. Take a lookee.

A Good Corsetry Site

By now everybody knows that I love corsets. love Love LOVE them! My dream is to have a corset custom made by Isabella Corsetry. Here is some information from her about page:

Isabella Corsetry makes corsets for women, men, and even children (no waist reduction of course), as well as custom bridal gowns, vintage inspired dresses, costumes, and undergarments.

Each corset made by Isabella Costumiere is individually patterned to each customers own measurements . Since no two bodies are exactly the same this means you will get a corset that fits YOUR body. I use a rather long list of measurements and double check each pattern to insure the perfect fit. For long distance customers I can construct a muslin mock up of your corset and mail it to you to try on in the comfort of your own home to make certain your corset is just right. These are inlcuded with every overbust corset.

Well, there you have it - a few new Good Things for you to check out. I’m getting such a backlist that I’m considering doing The Good Things List twice a week instead of just on Saturdays. What do you think?

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This is the stuff I think I can’t live without.  Considering we’re all in the same freaky ark on our way to the promised land, you might like something off my list:

1. Stainless Steel Speculum - I’m big into medical play.  I have these fantasies about having an exam and then being taken advantage of by the doctor I so trust… I do a lot of medical play in my pro-domme biz.
2. The Sims Anal Speculum - Kind of goes along with #1.
3. Wartenberg Wheel - I used to have one, but who knows where it went?!
4. Vibrating Pleasure Periscope - Provides a lit view into whatever orifice you’ve inserted it into.
5. Black Latex Gloves - Latex is delicious, but I’m 36 and I’ve had 2 babies… latex isn’t forgiving.  But I can still wear things like Black Latex Gloves and Stockings, damnit!
6. Tweezer Nipple Clamps - As American as Apple Pie
7. Ophelia Corset - I’ve wanted this corset for a year!  I keep thinking that Chris Martin will see that and send it to me in a box with a note that says, ” Meet Me Backstage In Atlanta on November 11th”.  Oh, and if you need a larger size, they have a nice curvy version of this corset.  You girls know that I love curves!
8. The Anal Rope Master Hook - You know the one - you’ve seen it in all the best movies lately.  The little end with the ball on it goes in her/his ass and the other end is tied to…  whatever you want to tie it to.  Love it!
9. The Latex Vacuum Bed - For those who like the feeling of encasement and complete vulnerability.
10. Universal Nipple Enlarger - I’ve used these once and I loved them.  You use a little bulb suction to pull your nipple into the tube and then slide a band over it, leaving your nipple big and hard.  Since MDS has a nipple fetish, I like this toy a lot.  He has also used it on my clit, so I think that’s an added benefit.

So there you go - my handpicked Breathplay.info/Stockroom.com wishlist.  I hope you find something you can’t live without.  Incidentally, if you buy something from my list here, you’ll be supporting Breathplay.info.  Being this kinky is expensive!