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Strap On Play Is Not Just A Fetish, It’s Fun!

Catalina in Corsette Harness by AlteredAperture.com

Catalina in Corsette Harness by AlteredAperture.com

This is the second strap on harness that I’ve reviewed for New Toy Tuesday.  The Flame Harness Kit was the first.  I have to say, of the two, this one is my favorite.  In fact, of all of the strap-on harnesses that I’ve tried on over the years, which is probably more than the average girl, this is my favorite.  Now, it’s known that I have a little fetish anyway for corsets on women.  I have a blog dedicated to that (and collars).  The Corsette Harness is then, the perfect harness for me because it has the sexy lace up corset factor with the fun of strap on sex.

The image of the Corsette Harness that is on VibeReview.com isn’t quite exactly like mine.  Mine is simply black, my preference, simple elegance.  My other preference for strapon play is to remain feminine while crossing sexual boundaries.  To be a beautiful woman with a cock can be a huge turn-on for the right man (or woman).  To play with a strap on with a man doesn’t have to be a humiliation, D/s scene.  It can be intimate, loving, and just as sweet and sexy as honeymoon sex.

In my professional career as a dominatrix, strap-on sex takes on a completely different vibe, but most of my readers aren’t professional dommes, so I’m going to stick to this subject in strictly the context of a personal relationship. The word pegging doesn’t suit me, because I see it as a power word.  Turning my man over on his tummy and pegging him doesn’t really fit in my relationship with Marky D. Sade.  When I think of strap on sex with a man that I love, I think of it as another way of sharing intimacy and pleasure.  It’s just “sex”.  It’s another option on the drop-down menu of our sex life.  It’s definitely different, there is a palpable difference in the energy in our bed, but it still is just love and sex. It’s another way to explore as a couple.

Now, I feel badly because I’m leaving out the ladies.  The fact is, I am a bisexual girl.  I enjoy using a strap on with women, and I know several lesbian couples who own a very impressive collection of strap-on dildos.  The fact is, they are fun.  It’s not that lesbians want a “man”, but they want their woman to fill them up, to give them that fantastic feeling that only cock can give you.  I don’t remember the exact quote, but I do remember once reading one of my favorite feminist authors write something along the lines of, “Just because I want to feel a cock in my pussy doesn’t mean I love men…  it means I love the feeling of having my cunt filled completely the way that only a cock can.”    I’m sure she was more eloquent than I, but you get the idea.

Ultimately, if you’re like me and you want to explore with strap-on play, but you don’t want to look like the big, bad, sadistic domme, then this is my pick.  It’s soft, velvety, pretty, corsetty (It’s a word, I just said so), and feminine.  Undeniably feminine.  Look at that image of me above and tell me it’s anything other than feminine.  I dare you.  It’s not only feminine, but I have my collar on.  What a conundrum.  Am I Domme or sub?  Neither.  I’m just sexy.  Strap-on sex can be what you make it.  It can be about domination and/or humiliation or it can be about hot and kinky, but loving sex.  It can be both.  It can be everything in between.  You already have dildos and vibes.  Try something new - be adventurous.  Carpe Noctem!

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